Help Writing a Jewish Eulogy (Hesped) | Shpiel
Eulogy & Remembrance

Words for the hardest speech you'll ever give.

Jewish funerals come quickly — often within a day or two. If you're staring at a blank page with a heavy heart, Shpiel helps you turn memories into an honest hesped: who they were, what they valued, in their tradition and your words.

Free to write and preview · your words remain yours

From someone who stood where you are.

Daniel R.

"I hadn't set foot in a shul in years, and I was terrified to speak at my dad's funeral. Shpiel helped me find words that were honest, Jewish, and completely him. People told me it was the most beautiful hesped they'd heard."

Daniel R. · Eulogy · Secular
How it works

Three quiet steps.

Step 1
At your pace

Share memories, at your pace.

Questions that unlock memory when nothing else does: what did they do that no one else did? What will you miss on an ordinary Tuesday?

Step 2
We shape it

Shpiel shapes a hesped.

Honest, never exaggerated — the tradition itself asks for truth over praise. Jewish to the degree that fits their life.

Step 3
In your words

Change any word.

Read it aloud once. Bring it printed, in large type.

Not generic AI

Honest, and recognizably them.

The tradition warns against exaggerating in a hesped. You don't need to make your father a saint — you need to make him recognizable. Shpiel writes from your true stories, holds the Jewish thread only as strongly as it ran through their life, and leaves every word yours to change.

Who's speaking?

Written in the voice of the one who loved them.

A son or daughter · A spouse · A grandchild · A sibling · A friend

A sample line

Honest, and unmistakably him.

"My father answered the phone the same way for fifty years — like he'd been waiting all day for exactly your call. That was not technique. That was who he was."

Questions, answered.

Yes. Sharing memories takes a few minutes; the draft comes at once. Many people use Shpiel simply to get past the blank page at a hard time.
Yes. A secular life honestly told honors them more than borrowed piety — tell Shpiel their relationship to tradition and it writes accordingly.
Yes. A funny, true story is one of the most healing things a hesped can hold. Jewish funerals have more laughter in them than people expect.
Writing and previewing is free. The final version is $29. If cost is a barrier this week, write to us.

A gentle guide, if you'd like it: How to Write a Jewish Eulogy (Hesped).

May their memory be a blessing.

Whenever you're ready, Shpiel is here to help you find the words.

Begin, when you're ready →